Ever wonder what you’re not supposed to say to a parent of a special needs child? Sometimes, not commenting at all is better rather than uttering those seemingly innocuous words that almost often adds wound to aching hearts. The following list is from my own personal experience because I receive those questions first hand.
1. Did you take any medication when you’re pregnant?
This question often adds injury to the listening parent. “Why in the world would I do that?”
2. You should try to go to this doctor, otherwise your child will get retarded.
Again, I’d rather shut up than comment something like this. Who are you to judge, and add an unsympathetic advice. Brutally frank and not helping at all.
3. They might have smoked marijuana when they we’re pregnant that’s why their child is sick.
This is quoted from a recent comment made by a senator. So insensitive.
4. It’s good if you don’t add another child.
It is our right as parents to decide for that. As a first time parent of a special needs child, it is hard to picture
see her growing up alone. She needs someone she can play with, someone she can lean on to, someone who will be there for her when we’re old. Who knows, it might help her development. In short, this is personal. Don’t judge.
Have a nice weekend,